We experience flow when tackling a challenge in the sweet spot of our ability to overcome it without excess anxiety or boredom.
All games demand flow. When our experience becomes too challenging or too easy, we stop playing optimally (or altogether).
The secret to growth in infinite games is to only play finite games within your flow channel.
Don’t challenge a chess master to play and expect to win and don’t look for intimate connections at bus stops. These are games you’re not going to have fun playing.
If you find that your channel is too narrow to allow enough finite play, perhaps it needs expanding.
Our tolerance to failure and our ability to process it productively are directly linked to the range of flow experiences available to us.
Widen the channel far enough and no game is too boring or worrying to play.
Winning and losing ceases to matter – the point of playing becomes the continuation of the play.
If you find games you can play under any and all circumstances and still improve, you’ll live in flow forever.