“All finite play is play against itself.”James P Carse
To play to win is to play with the hope that the game will be completed (and that you will emerge victorious.
But our likelihood of winning finite games is dependant upon how adept we are at playing infinite ones.
There’s no point winning a game in such dramatic fashion that your competitors will be unable to play again.
It isn’t worth fighting so hard that you injure a valuable training partner in the same way it isn’t worth hoarding so much that your neighbour cannot afford to play games with or alongside you.
While some competition keeps games lively, competitiveness at its extreme is counterproductive to play.
Strive to play for the sake of play. And, if you must seek victory, do so with a humility, respect and honour which ensures your play, and the pay of others, will carry on.